i am going to vent here. so stand back.
if there is one thing i do not understand, and will never understand, it is RSVPing "yes" to an invitation, not showing up, not calling or emailing or anything to SAY you're not showing up, and thinking this is a-okay.
i do not have ragers. i have small get togethers. when someone doesn't show up, i notice. i wonder where they are. and not to even BOTHER with an "i'm sorry, something came up at the last minute and i can't make it" - that is just undeniably, unarguably rude. i don't care who you are or where you come from. i don't care how well i know you or how old you are. i told my mother about this behavior and her reply was, "bad breeding." and it's true.
RSVPing serves a purpose. it allows the host to plan for food, beverages, alcohol, party favors, etc. when you say you're coming and then back out for no apparent reason - or at least GIVE no reason, leaving the host to assume there isn't any good reason - you are basically wasting the host's money and time. it's disrespectful and thoughtless and it annoys me to no end. i have actually ended up losing a "friend" over this situation in the past - she thought it was totally cool to promise me she was coming to a party, then not show up and act like i was being irrational for being annoyed.
i have no doubt that this stems in part to the complete lack of culpability and responsibility i have noticed in people my age and younger. and don't get me wrong, i am often guilty of this same lack, but not when it comes to manners and respecting other people's time, money, and effort.
"impolite" is too weak a word to describe this behavior. "rude" comes closer. what it really is is disrespectful. and i think it's bullshit.
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